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Enjoy the Silence?

July 12, 2017 by TheHarriedMom 22 Comments

I can’t remember that last time I sat in silence.

I’m talking absolute silence….quiet enough to hear a pin drop, the house creak or the dog snoring in an upstairs bedroom.

I think it’s practically impossible to experience absolute silence anymore. We’re constantly surrounded by noise – from music playing softly in elevators to the sounds of birds chirping in the trees and from honking car horns to the notification pings from your phone from your latest Facebook or Instagram post.

Noise is inevitable, but can I tell you what the most annoying noise in the world is to me?

It’s the noise that comes from people who think they’re being quiet. I’m talking about people who wear earbuds/headphones out in public with the volume jacked all the way to the max!

There’s even a popular meme about loud headphone wearers:

This annoyance stems from my daily commute to and from work. It’s about a 40-minute train ride from my New Jersey suburb to my stop in Hoboken before hopping on the PATH train to downtown NYC.

When I take the train to work I like to ride in the quiet car.  Every train on NJ Transit has one.  It’s usually the first car on the train for my ride in the morning and the last car on the train for my ride home back out to the ‘burbs.

I ride the quiet car because it’s the only time during my day that I’m not barraged by questions, requests or demands from my kids or co-workers.   Sometimes it’s the only period of silence I get for the entire day.   The quiet allows me to get my head in the game and sort out my daily priorities and tasks for both the work and home front. I also, maybe selfishly, consider it a bit of “me time, ” and I do things like read a book or play Candy Crush on my phone. I look forward to that 40-minute quiet period every day.

I also think most people who opt to sit in the quiet car are just like me. They are people looking for a little respite at the start or end of their day,  looking for a brief break from the noise and demands of life.

So understandably I get pretty annoyed when, sitting in the quiet car, trying to find my zen and I suddenly find myself listening to Billboard’s Top 20, or some rap song filled with expletives I didn’t even know existed from someone wearing headphones!

I mean, what’s the point of wearing headphones when you play your music so loudly that other people can hear it? Doesn’t that defeat the whole purpose of headphones?

I ask you, how loud does music have to be in order for a person to hear it and for it to sound good?

Now, do I ever ask them to turn their music down?

No, I never do because first, if I did ask them they couldn’t hear me since their music is so loud; second, since it’s the quiet car, I’m not supposed to partake in conversation and third, and the biggest reason of all, I’m a total chicken.

Instead, I prefer using the “prolonged staredown” method,  meaning I just stare at the noise offender until they look up and give a shooting glance down to their smartphone and shake my head un-approvingly.

Does this approach actually work?

Well, it does turn out to be quite effective when several people on the train also happen to be staring at the person at the same time!

Most of the people I’ve given the stare down to on the train get embarrassed and turn their music down to a respectable level.  I’ve even had people get up and move to a different, non-quiet car, but there are always those that just don’t care and, I’m convinced, turn their music up even louder in spite.

I know, I know, you’re probably saying “You sound like a crabby old lady!” But I’m not really. I love music. When I’m cooking in the kitchen, reading a magazine, working in my office or sitting around the living room with a glass of wine I’ve usually got music playing in the background.  My personal musical preferences lean towards songs from the 70s and 80s, which remind me of my carefree youth, but I could belt out a song by Taylor Swift or Chainsmokers in a karaoke showdown!

And yes, when I was a teenager and young adult I used to crank the tunes way up on my Sony Sports “Yellow Monster” Walkman, but that was generally only in my bedroom.  If I ever used my Walkman out of the house and in a place with other people, like the gym or library, I always made sure I was respectful of my noise level so as not to disturb others.

So here’s some friendly, motherly and ear-saving advice to all you loud headphone listeners — turn the volume down!  You’re eventually going to go deaf or get tinnitus listening to anything – whether it be music, a podcast, talk show or sporting event – that loud for too long.   You could even, gasp, turn off the music and take a moment to enjoy the silence.

But if you are going to continue to blast your music at full volume through your headphones, could you at least play some Bee Gees, Duran Duran, Eric Clapton or Depeche Mode so I can sing along?

Now it’s your turn to share.  What’s your favorite type of music to listen to?

 

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  1. Yudith @ raisefrequency says

    March 12, 2018 at 7:05 PM

    Yes indeed, we all need some silence time. It is great that there are silent trains in your area. It makes commuting relaxing
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  2. MinhMinh says

    August 1, 2017 at 10:55 PM

    I love music and I also listen to music through headphones. A handy tip from you

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  3. Our Family World says

    July 15, 2017 at 8:11 AM

    I need a quiet time but I could not possibly have one during the day in a male dominant household. I just wake up an hour ahead before everyone else. That is how I get to have some peace and much needed quiet time.

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  4. Shannon Gurnee says

    July 14, 2017 at 1:09 PM

    I love to take the train long distance when I’m heading 3 1/2 hours south to the airport. I had no idea that some trains had quiet cars! I always sit in business class and it’s usually pretty quiet.
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  5. Wendy Polisi says

    July 13, 2017 at 4:27 PM

    I feel bad sometimes when I have to get on public transport with my children. Hard to keep them perfectly quiet the whole time.

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  6. Kita Bryant says

    July 13, 2017 at 4:21 PM

    I have chosen the quiet car many times myself. People can just be so inconsiderate!

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  7. Kelly Hutchinson says

    July 13, 2017 at 2:31 PM

    I must say, I am guilty of my ear buds being so loud, others can hear it. I never thought about how bothersome it could be
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  8. Travel Blogger says

    July 13, 2017 at 2:28 PM

    I didn’t realize that there were quiet cars on trains. That is nice! However, I need to keep this in mind when I have my headphones in somewhere. I tend to listen to it way too loud.
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  9. Carol Cassara says

    July 13, 2017 at 12:34 PM

    I am IN LOVE with music and it’s always nice to have a few tunes ready to be listened to especially during my me time! But don’t get me wrong I also enjoy the silence! It’s something that helps me relax and calm down, it depends on my mood, really.

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  10. Jocelyn @ Hip Mama's Place says

    July 13, 2017 at 11:50 AM

    I love music, to be honest. But sometimes there’s just something good about enjoying the peace and quiet because all we hear are voices all day, complaining, demanding, and more. It’s awesome to listen to music and I love RnB and Pop, but I also love my quiet time.
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  11. Janell Poulette says

    July 12, 2017 at 11:55 PM

    First of all, i need a quiet car somewhere in my life because i have never heard of this. Second, i love 90’s music all the way, third, i think its so rude when people don’t respect other with people wth their noise level. But I’m like you, i would just stare them down lol!

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  12. Pam says

    July 12, 2017 at 10:34 PM

    Listening to music too loudly through headphones isn’t just annoying, it’s bad for your ears. I’ve never understood it.

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  13. Liz Mays says

    July 12, 2017 at 8:11 PM

    I do wonder how people can stand to have music blasting in their ears like that. Ouch! It can’t be good for their eardrums.
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  14. Makeba Giles says

    July 12, 2017 at 7:42 PM

    I totally agree! My son had started wearing earphones on the ride to school, and I could hear everything – so annoying! We listen to different types of music, which made it even worse!

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  15. Colleen Lanin says

    July 12, 2017 at 1:18 PM

    Somewhere out there, millions of people are ruining their ears. I can’t believe how loudly people blast their earbuds.
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    • TheHarriedMom says

      July 12, 2017 at 3:53 PM

      They totally are…and we will have to yell when speaking to them in order for them to hear us!

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  16. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle says

    July 12, 2017 at 1:17 PM

    That meme is the best! I constantly say this to my kids. They listen to their headphones so loudly, I can heard them across the room.
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    • TheHarriedMom says

      July 12, 2017 at 3:54 PM

      We took a trip to the OBX from NJ – so 8-hour car drive and I had to keep telling my son to turn down his headphones. He was sitting in backseat, but I could hear the sound effects from the video game he was playing like it was in my own ear!

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  17. Robin rue says

    July 12, 2017 at 1:09 PM

    My husband takes the train to and from work and always sits in the quiet car on the train. I probably would, too.

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    • TheHarriedMom says

      July 12, 2017 at 3:54 PM

      It’s my little sanctuary and I don’t like my quiet being ruined by loud headphone noise – that’s what the headphones are for so I don’t have to hear it!

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  18. Mary Edwards says

    July 12, 2017 at 12:29 PM

    I’m still in love with 80’s and 90s music. The kids are trying to turn me into liking their current music. But I’m not having it.

    My teens do turn their headphones up way too loud. We invested in noise cancelling….win-win for BOTH of us
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    • TheHarriedMom says

      July 12, 2017 at 3:55 PM

      If only everyone had noise canceling headphones……they just need to TURN IT DOWN!

      Reply

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