Kids In Common

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My style is not to give the hard sell the entire time, but to sprinkle my pitch with casual conversation to hopefully find a shared connection with the reporter. Either I was having an “off” day and was totally boring or this reporter was the least inquisitive person on the planet. I was never more thankful when our salads were quickly followed by our meals and the check discretely handed to me. This meeting, my pitch and potential coverage of my project was heading for a complete bust. I wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible and lick my publicity wounds back in my office. It was also clear that he wanted to make a fast get-away, as he kept checking his iPhone for any excuse to get away. However, like any good publicist, I wanted to give the reporter my business card.

I reached down into my purse to grab my business card holder and mistakenly grabbed this and placed it on the table instead:

My son’s Hot Wheels Houston Fire-EMS Rescue vehicle

Look into the purse of any mom with pre-schoolers and you’re likely to find cars, toys, dolls, lollypops, half-eaten candy, used tissues and wet wipes, among other things. I usually try to clean out my bag each week because otherwise my purse would weigh ten pounds!  Apparently, I missed this one…..

I was totally embarrassed, but the reporter chuckled and asked, “How old is your son?” I told him he’s four and totally obsessed with fire trucks, monster trucks, and pretty much anything else that has wheels. He said his son was three and is just as obsessed and loves watching anything with cars or trucks on his iPad, which he sometimes has to wrestle away from his son for order to get work done! The entire tone of the lunch changed and instead of us rushing to get out of there, we sat at the table for another 30 minutes just talking about our kids and parenting in general. I turned him on to Mighty Machines, or what the Hubs and I jokingly refer to as “truck porn” for kids – 45 minutes of nothing but different kinds of trucks. Just enough time for mom or dad to finish up some leftover work, send out an emergency email, get dinner ready or put on a load of laundry! He gave me his “thumbs-up” review of the Children’s Museum of Manhattan which he had visited the prior weekend for the first time.

It was finally time to leave and as we shook hands goodbye, the reporter told me to email him more info on my upcoming project and he’d vet it out, but sounded like he’d be into doing something on it. SUCCESS!!

When I got home that night, I gave my son a kiss and told him that he had helped me at work today – and pulled out his fire department rescue vehicle. I don’t think he really understood what I was telling him, he was just happy to get his “favorite” toy back. Then I decided to forget about work for a while and got down on the floor with my son and daughter and played cars until the Hubs came home!


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  1. says

    I still consider myself newish to the mommy world (my daughter is 14 months), but man I tell you that conversations change when you have kids! More conversations, and the ability to drag them out as well! Glad it worked out for you! Happy SITS day!

  2. says

    I think this is a great story and proves that so many times we believe our kids are a road-block to our careers, our relationships, and our success–but actually……..they’re the common bond that we share with so many people, no matter how powerful or important they are and it goes a long way. They truly are the best thing that’s ever happened to us! Happy SITS Day!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      You said it so beautifully, our kids are the bond between us and so many people! Thank you for stopping by today and commenting. I hope you’ll come back soon!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      Thank you…I like to call it the battlescars of parenting! Thanks for coming by, I hope you’ll be back soon.

  3. says

    That is totally awesome, and what a way to break the ice that had frozen over the whole lunch!! Amazing how kids can do that, even when they’re not around. Happy SITS day! 🙂

    • TheHarriedMom says

      The lunch was a total disaster. Thank goodness for that stupid little Hot Wheels….they have more of a use than stepping over them in the playroom! Thanks for coming by & commenting. I hope you’ll be back soon.

  4. says

    Stopping by from SITS.

    What an awesome story! I think much of this ties into a deep down need to relate to the person we’re talking to and make it a more personal conversation than just a strictly business interaction. I’m glad it worked out for you! A mutual bond helped make a boring business meeting work out for the better.

    • TheHarriedMom says

      So true! Finding a common ground – something even as small as a Hot Wheels – can open a whole new dimension to a conversation or relationship. Thanks for coming by & commenting. I hope you’ll be back soon!

  5. says

    I found that talking about somthing you have in common always helps an awkward conversation. talking about my daughter has saved plenty conversations that would have otherwise sucked.

    • TheHarriedMom says

      It totally changed the entire tone of the lunch….it went from zero to hero (sorry to borrow from Vanilla Ice!). So glad you stopped by today, I hope you will be back soon.

  6. says

    Visiting from SITS. Great post. I often find in my own little career world that if both parties have kids, the topic can be such a wonderful icebreaker.

    Sounds like we are both in a similar life stage. I have a full-time career and 3 kids ages 8, 5 and almost 2. I’ll be back to visit again. Feel free to check out my site as well.

    • TheHarriedMom says

      I will definitely check your site out. It’s nice to hear from other working moms as to how they balance and how they keep it all together. Thanks for coming by, I hope you will be back!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      I know, they’re like a mobile playroom. I’m afraid sometimes of what I might find down there! Thanks for coming by and commenting. I hope that you’ll be back.

  7. says

    That’s awesome. I find that the kid conversation is a great icebreaker. Who doesn’t love talking about their kids? Hope you got some ink after the meeting!

    Happy SITS Day!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      There was some serious ink after that meeting…but I hope that I did a good job pitching my project than just having kids in common 😉 but I’ll take it any way I can get it! Thanks for stopping by today, I hope you’ll be back soon!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      Glad you enjoyed it – it’s so weird and random what we have in common with other people. Thank you for coming by & commenting. I hope you’ll be by again soon!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      Who doesn’t like gushing over their kids – so it’s a great way to find some common ground. Thank you for coming by & joining in the conversation.

  8. says

    Happy SITS day! Ok odd perspective here but i envy the first half of your lunch. Now I’m dreaming of how nice it would be to have a lunch without my kids! Imagine talking to someone without being interrupted by kids! or communicating on non-kid related topics!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      I know, having a lunch where I don’t have to order for anyone but myself, cut anyone else’s food or ask for ketchup is always a peaceful meal!

  9. says

    This is awesome 🙂 I always have random toys and things in my purse but they have yet to help me out like this. I may have to let them linger in there a bit longer!

    • TheHarriedMom says

      Thank you! I hate to think what is at the bottom of my purse sometimes, but that Hot Wheel totally saved my day!

  10. says

    oh gosh, I LOVE this! I love that you found common ground in a simple thing like your little guy’s truck. I think you need to make sure you always have a toy handy in your bag. 😉

    Thanks for linking up!!
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    • TheHarriedMom says

      Thanks Elaine for the link up, it’s lots of fun and I appreciate you giving me a shout out! There’s always a toy in my bag, I always seem to miss at least one of them….so glad I missed this one!

  11. says

    +1 for Hot Wheels! Just goes to show that it truly is the “whole person” that we bring to work – no matter where that work may be. And listen, I’m happy for you to take me to a swanky lunch to pitch something to me. My blog gets at least – at LEAST – 200 unique hits a week. That’s worth about five oyster crackers, right? 😉
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    • TheHarriedMom says

      It really is the whole person we bring to work. I was never more happy to see that truck in the bottom of my purse after this lunch! And we should have a swanky lunch regardless!


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