Creating and maintaining The Harried Mom takes a lot of work. I started this blog a few years ago as a creative outlet for myself, to share my stories about everyday parenting – the good, the bad and even those forehead slap moments that we all experience with our families. Over time the site has evolved to also include family meal ideas/recipes, DIY kid crafts, reviews and fun activity/outing suggestions to do with kids. In the next week or so, I’ll even be debuting a new look to the blog!!
The Harried Mom truly is a labor of love. See, my #1 job is being a mom & wife ILR to two kidlets and a husband I just adore. After that, I’m a mom who works away of the home (because every mom is a working mom, my job just happens to take me out of the home) in a fab career. This blog is what I do “after-hours,” at home once the kidlets have gone off to dreamland, The Hubs fed and laundry is done (well, sometimes!). It does take a lot of time, effort and lots of understanding from my family & friends, but I really enjoy doing it so it’s worth it.
The question I get asked the most about blogging is, “how do you decide or come up with what you write about?”
For me the content and ideas are pretty simple to come up with. I write about things that interests me as a mom, wife, friend and career gal and those things that interest my family. I used to write entries as they came to me – not on any sort of schedule, but over the past year I’ve gotten myself on an editorial calendar to make my publishing schedule more consistent.
However, the actual writing isn’t always that easy. I constantly struggle in my head about what I can and how much I should share about the details of my family’s life and what should stay private.
What I hear and read from other digital media mavens (AKA Mom/Family bloggers) is that this will become a bigger issue as my kidlets get older. Right now they’re still young – they’re six and four. I’m sharing stories about their childhood, their firsts, their accomplishments, their likes, dislikes and discoveries. I’m not revealing any of their innermost thoughts or sharing any confidences they share with me (there’s not too many secrets at this age!).
More and more though I’ve had to really think before I hit the publish button here. Will the story or photo I’m posting come back to haunt or embarrass my kids someday? Will they resent mom for revealing or sharing something they feel is too personal? There have been times that I’ve spent hours or days writing a post and wind up hitting delete because it is just too intimate a detail about my family’s joys, successes, struggles or problems.
At what point are the stories about my kidlets no longer mine to share? I’m telling the stories from my experience, but since it’s them I’m writing about, shouldn’t they get a say in whether they want mom putting it out there or not?
Right now they’re too small to understand. Whenever they see The Harried Mom up on the computer screen, they get excited and ask to see a picture of themselves in a post. I mostly rely on The Hubs as my sounding board. I ask his opinions about post ideas and if he feels it violates the family’s privacy. He’s honest and candid giving me either a “yea,” “nay” or suggestions on how to moderate it.
For now, I’m totally comfortable sharing the life and times of The Harried Mom – written from the perspective of one mom who is just trying to balance it all – family, work and life! I’m glad you are here and along for the ride!
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When Are the Stories of My Children No Longer Mine to Tell? by The Harried Mom, unless otherwise expressly stated, is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.